As I grew and learned I learned this ever changing and vigilant state of mind was toxic.   It leads to a host of complications in spirit, mind and body and can result in dysfunctional relationships with people, places, situations and things.   I realized I was a complete “people pleaser”, making decisions based not on what I wanted but driven by what I thought others wanted from me.   Furthermore when you live with this belief others around you also act as if you need to please them and not doing so is “selfish”.    Some people actually would call me selfish and others would simply act as if I should feel guilty for not doing what they wanted.    

For a long time I resented being in this place.   “Why me?”   I asked myself.    “Am I simply not meant to be happy?   Is my purpose in life just to serve others without expecting happiness for myself?”    

In working with my own coaches and spiritual mentors I have learned that not only do I deserve happiness and the life of my dreams, but that I CAN serve others with carefully held boundaries.    I now know that my “Truth” is that I needed to go through these experiences to learn to come through them successfully, so that I may share this with YOU!   I have become a beacon of light, a “lighthouse” for others, like me, who struggle with feeling as if they give too much of themselves without receiving.   From the combination of wisdom and knowledge of life experiences and education and 30 years in the business of healing I am THE expert in transformation!   The work is not easy, and you will have to take responsibility for your own choice.   

Trust me….you are worth the effort! 

As I grew and learned I learned this ever changing and vigilant state of mind was toxic.   It leads to a host of complications in spirit, mind and body and can result in dysfunctional relationships with people, places, situations and things.   I realized I was a complete “people pleaser”, making decisions based not on what I wanted but driven by what I thought others wanted from me.   Furthermore when you live with this belief others around you also act as if you need to please them and not doing so is “selfish”.    Some people actually would call me selfish and others would simply act as if I should feel guilty for not doing what they wanted.    

For a long time I resented being in this place.   “Why me?”   I asked myself.    “Am I simply not meant to be happy?   Is my purpose in life just to serve others without expecting happiness for myself?”    

In working with my own coaches and spiritual mentors I have learned that not only do I deserve happiness and the life of my dreams, but that I CAN serve others with carefully held boundaries.    I now know that my “Truth” is that I needed to go through these experiences to learn to come through them successfully, so that I may share this with YOU!   I have become a beacon of light, a “lighthouse” for others, like me, who struggle with feeling as if they give too much of themselves without receiving.   From the combination of wisdom and knowledge of life experiences and education and 30 years in the business of healing I am THE expert in transformation!   The work is not easy, and you will have to take responsibility for your own choice.   

Trust me….you are worth the effort!